VIVA LA DIFFERENCES

A person's greatest need is to be significant, accepted unconditionally, to really matter to someone else. It is so easy, especially now, to get caught up in the blame game. It's SO much easier to blame someone else for our lot in life but our self integrity rises when we put the blame back to where it really belongs, on ourselves. If it is change you want, start within.

Instead of complaining about the differences between men and women, let’s celebrate them. Yes, we’ve all heard that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, but we also know that we complement each other in so many ways. And let’s face it, we want to be mated. It’s built into our hard wiring. That is God's little joke in my opinion.

So why not appreciate each other’s differences instead of trying to make them into our clones? And how do we do that you might ask? We need to change our expectations of how our mates SHOULD look, SHOULD act, SHOULD think, SHOULD dress, SHOULD etc., etc. We can “SHOULD” our partners to an early grave, but will it make us any happier? Of course not. Quite the opposite.

If we just allow our mates to be who they are, and look for and find the reasons to celebrate their differences, we’ll all benefit in the long run. It’s not that complicated. There is no greater gift than allowing people to be their authentic selves.

Of course we can still grumble a little silently to ourselves on occasion. After all, we wouldn’t want to take away all the fun.

For Diane Ford’s humorous views on the differences between men and women check out: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SSwT744azR4