Cavalry

Because we can do it all, does that mean we must? Our mothers did it all, so why shouldn’t we? Today’s woman is smart enough to realize that the “real” pursuit of happiness is her cavalry. A cavalry is a group of women who make up the key players in our coalition, army, or support group. There are three kinds of support that a cavalry provides: emotional supporters, taskmasters, and strategic alliances.
Emotional supporters are a shoulder to cry on. Our validation that we are in fact not crazy, simply superhuman. Emotional support offers unconditional love-- without judgment--and availability any time of the day.
Task masters include nannies, housekeepers, and personal assistants who bless us with their talent so we can do more, be more, and deliver more than the human male.
Strategic alliances are my soapbox for this blog. Too few women engage in strategic support, which means sharing or trading beneficial services that help both parties succeed. We both win-win. I “trade” with a trademark attorney, a photographer, and a bookkeeper. Why exchange money when we can exchange services? I am not suggesting that we forgo financial security for a barter system, but I am suggesting that strategic alliance is the best way to maximize our lives and businesses quickly.
Sometimes women allow their martyr mentality to convince them that others are just too busy to help, when in fact, women love to be recognized for their expertise; we love to be caught doing something right, and it is in our nature to share our “tricks of the trade” with other women.
When women bond, oxytocin is released in their brain. It is the same release
that occurs when we have an orgasm. So calling in the cavalry is like calling in an orgasm. Sure makes you want to embrace a cavalry now, doesn’t it?
Remember that what we giveth, we receiveth, so not only should we create our own cavalry, we must be members of many cavalries in order to be successful.

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